December 2022 Newsletter

The “Lessons Learned” issue – This is the last newsletter I am putting together for the firm. I am retiring at the end of December after practicing law for 35 years, and turning the firm over to Tamara Hoffstatter and the rest of the capable team at NM Divorce & Custody Law, LLC. I wish you all happy holidays and a healthy, prosperous new year. Note the office will be closed Monday, Dec 26th through Monday, Jan 2nd.

This issue opens with 10 Lessons I Learned From My Divorce (So You Won't Have To), followed by 5 Essential Marriage Lessons From a Divorce Lawyer Who’s Seen it All, and concludes with 33 Important Life Lessons to Learn in Life Early.

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10 Lessons I Learned from My Divorce (So You Won't Have To)

"No one gets married thinking that divorce is just around the corner."

By Haywood Hunt, YourTango, Contributor,

Feb 16, 2017, 04:04 PM EST|Updated Feb 16, 2017

No one gets married thinking that divorce is just around the corner. Whatever the reasons for a divorce, whether it was your choice or not, it always takes a huge toll emotionally and financially.

So, what do you do when you feel lost, alone, frustrated and desperate to feel normal again? The truth of the matter is that it’s different for everyone, but there are some universal truths that can help you get through this chapter of your life, no matter your circumstances.

Here are 10 lessons learned from divorce shared by ladies who have gone through it and by divorce professionals.

1. Recovery takes time.

Depending on the reason for your divorce, the finality may either make you feel like it’s Christmas morning or the absolute end of the world. One thing to consider, though, is the feeling of vulnerability you’ll have until you’ve fully recovered. Surprisingly, in many cases the person hardest hit can often be the person who initiated the divorce itself. Seeing someone else suffer and knowing that you caused that pain can be a very heavy weight to take. Whatever your circumstances, you need to realize that the emotional stress associated with a breakup or divorce needs time to run its course. There are no short cuts with heartache and acceptance of this is key.

It is perfectly OK to seek help and it is perfectly OK to feel down, even if you’re the one who initiated the process.

2. Manage your future living expenses right NOW.

Getting divorced can make you emotional and cause you to make poor decisions that you’ll regret later. Now is not the time to blow off some stress by buying a closet full of shoes or buying that dream car your spouse never let you have. Remember that time will take care of sore feelings, but your financial decisions will affect you longer. Speaking with a financial advisor can play an important role in minimizing your current and future stress levels. They can assist you in knowing how much you need so you can make necessary adjustments and plans before it’s too late.

3. Be ready for unexpected costs.

It would be best to ask or request for some funds before your first alimony check arrives. If you don’t need alimony, that’s also fine, but know that there are probably some matters that were usually shouldered by your ex which you’ll have to pay for now. Don’t be sticker shocked when taking over the household utilities and even property taxes. If you have young children, you may want to prepare for a possible child custody battle even if things are currently going well between you and your ex. Lawyer bills can pile up quickly and if things get complicated and messy in this process, you need to make sure that you are fully prepared.

4. You’ll get nothing from trying to hurt your ex.

This should really be number 1! Remember that every action now has a consequence in the future. Sure, you can get your ex fired by ratting him out to his boss, but that will also mean he won’t have the same financial capabilities and will affect whatever support he can provide to you and your children. Also, according to Newton’s Third Law, “Every action has an exact and opposite reaction”. Don’t be surprised if you throw an egg at your ex’s new house and you find your car keyed the next day! Remember the best revenge you can ever have is to successfully move on.

Saying hurtful things online can also backfire when your kids are old enough to read what you shared about their father.

5. Choose your experts wisely.

Whether you have children or not, lawyers specializing in family law are your best bet to get the fairest settlement possible. If money is no option, then securing the best family lawyer available can be key. Not all things are created equal, and this is definitely true when dealing with seasoned and experienced counsel. You may also want to look into hiring a financial planner if you have a lot of combined assets with your husband.

6. Divorce doesn’t define you.

Just because you’re divorced does not mean that you’re a failure or that you’re not desirable. Most likely it’s because you grew apart or your ex just became a total jerk! Stigmas do persist these days but keep in mind that a divorce just means that the relationship did not work out or love has simply died. Just because you don’t find love with one person anymore doesn’t mean that the greatest love you’ll ever experience isn’t right around the corner. Keep your head up, you just might find who you’re looking for!

7. Your kids will always be affected by divorce.

Yes, even when they act like nothing happened. Research shows that kids often feel responsible when their parents go through a divorce. They may not say it, but there will be tell-tale behavioral signs that you can watch out for. The top five signs are as follows: 1.) Sadness and crying (pretty obvious!) 2.) Worrying and feeling afraid. 3.) Withdrawing socially and losing interest in activities they once loved. 4.) Acting out and arguing 5.) A decline in their performance at school. If your child is suffering from the emotional toll, this can quickly transfer over to your own emotional turmoil. Seeking professional help immediately can change the future path for both of you.

8. The holidays will be a hard time for you.

Feelings of loneliness are felt more during the holidays, and this doesn’t exempt those who are divorced. It would be best to plan a vacation or be with loved ones instead of being alone around the holidays. If you have children, make sure to create a holiday schedule that works for both of you well in advance. The holidays are stressful enough without having to deal with your ex at the last minute.

9. Joint accounts need your attention, too.

Don’t go into court without being fully informed about your joint accounts. You have to know online passwords, account pins, email verification, any investments and who is handling your account(s) if using a professional IMMEDIATELY. This will save you from both future headaches and heartache once the divorce is in process. If you feel that your ex is hiding money or is not being entirely truthful about their finances, hiring a private investigator to look into this for you is often the best option. The kick in the heart you take during a divorce is hard enough. No one need a punch to the wallet.

10. Divorce can be empowering.

Divorce shouldn’t be viewed as the end of a book, but rather the beginning of a whole new chapter. There are a lot of opportunities for new beginnings after divorce. Wherever life may lead you, just know that you will always have a choice.

With everything said, there is no doubt that going through a divorce can be a scary time for anyone. Though it’s true that uncertainties are everywhere, the answers and help that you seek might be just a phone call away.

And remember no matter how dark and how tough the time is right now to hold on and move forward. As Winston Churchill once wisely said “If you’re going through hell. Keep going!”

5 Essential Marriage Lessons From a Divorce Lawyer Who’s Seen it All

To understand what makes marriages fail, it helps to hear it from someone who's dealt with a lot of them.

Posted by Jeremy Brown on www.fatherly.com updated: 9.1.2021

The majority of marriages that end in divorce aren’t bound by one single incident. Often, it’s the buildup of many small, seemingly minor incidents over the years, bookended by a few major inciting issues, that ends a marriage. Death by a thousand cuts, versus one gaping wound. It’s important for married couples to learn from the mistakes of others, especially when failed marriages are concerned, but, what are the things that husbands and wives are (or aren’t) doing that commonly cause the wheels to loosen and eventually fly off? What can couples do to inoculate themselves?

One line of attack: speak to those who regularly work with divorced couples, who, in their line of occupation, see similar marriage-ending issues crop up again and again. A divorce lawyer with two decades of experience with negotiating high-conflict divorces and the author of the relationship book If You’re In My Office It’s Already Too Late (recently re-released as How to Stay in Love: Practical Wisdom from an Unexpected Source), James Sexton has spent time with thousands of couples who are ending their marriage. In short, he understands better than most what commonly causes a relationship’s demise.

“A lot of what I try to talk about is what can we do to stop the raindrops before they become the flood?” Sexton says. “What can we do before that? How do we keep people from losing the plot of the story that leads them to these big marriage killers that are really hard to come back from?”

To find out more, Fatherly asked Sexton for examples from several real-life divorces to explain what lead to the marriage’s end and how couples can avoid the same fate.

Don’t Sideline Small Issues

The Couple: A married couple found that, after having their first child, the problems that were present in their marriage, such as arguing and the husband’s drinking, were only amplified. Rather than addressing the issues that were plaguing their marriage, they opted to have another child. One year after that child was born, the wife filed for divorce.

Sexton’s Advice: As Sexton puts it, there is no one snowflake that causes the roof to cave in. It’s a slow and steady build up until one day, disaster strikes. Resentment only accumulates if people are unwilling to confront the issues at the outset.

“The question you have to ask is, ‘What are the conditions in your marriage in terms of being able to talk honestly?’” Sexton says. “What’s your reaction when your spouse says to you, ‘Hey, we’re having money problems’? I think a marriage is a living organism, and we all have varying degrees of culpability in creating those conditions in the marriage.”

Communicate Your Needs and Wants Out Loud

The Couple: One of Sexton’s clients was married to a lawyer who had a habit of visiting prostitutes and then writing long and detailed reviews about his visits on an escort rating message board. “By all accounts his wife was just totally shocked,” Sexton noted. “This was a person you never would have thought would have engaged in this kind of behavior.”

Sexton’s Advice: While the online reviews took this case to a different level, the core issue here, he says, is one of infidelity, which Sexton says comes from one partner not being aware of the other’s needs. “Pay attention to your needs, pay attention to your spouse’s needs,” Sexton says. “And then actively communicate about both. Communicate what you need and want and where your spouse is hitting the mark and not hitting the mark.”

Remember Why You Got Married in the First Place

The Couple: Sexton has had numerous clients where the marriage began to erode because one partner was constantly offering suggestions on how the other person could improve, under the guise of “constructive criticism.” This amounts to one person telling the other something to the effect of “We’re in a rut and I want things to change.” However, all the other person tends to hear under those circumstances is, “I don’t like what you’re doing, and this is what I want you to do to change it.” The end is usually the same.

Sexton’s Advice: Constant criticism, per Sexton, is never productive. “You didn’t marry someone because they were good at criticizing you,” he says, “You marry someone because they’re a cheerleader. They make you feel good. The world is antagonistic and chaotic and it’s really nice to have someone cheering for you.” Both partners need to recognize why they married the other and dole out criticism and cheerleading. It also comes down to talking about resentments before they fester. Everyone has bad habits, be it over-criticizing or doing whatever it is that causes the criticism. What matters is how partners handle both and that they remember why they married one another in the first place.

Never Stop Paying Attention to the Little Things

The Issue: Sexton recalled one of his clients telling him that the moment she knew her marriage was over was when there was no granola in the kitchen. There was a certain type of granola that she enjoyed eating from Whole Foods, and her husband would always get it for her without asking. “She said, ‘I never said anything about it,’” says Sexton, “but it was one of those things that made me feel really loved and made me feel like he was paying attention.” One day, when the granola was out and had not been replenished, the woman knew that something was off in the marriage.

Sexton’s Advice: Little gestures can go a long way, Sexton notes. Or even acts of service that one does for the other that are completely selfless (such as, in the case of the granola woman, she would often give her husband oral sex early in the marriage), can build equity in a marriage. “These ways of expressing love and affection and attention to another person then slowly slip away because of the understandable things that happen in day-to-day life,” says Sexton. “The demands of work and children and stress and everything else. Those actions are the glue to a marriage. And when that slips, then the whole machine falls apart.”

Talk About Everything

The Issue: Sexton had a client he describes as a classic “man’s man” type who owned a tree removal business. However, he privately harbored an interest in wearing women’s underwear. He had a healthy sex life with his spouse, but was unwilling or unable to bring this up to her. He had considered mentioning it to her during sex and had even started composing an email outlining his desire, but had never sent it. Unable to satisfy this fetish with his wife, Sexton’s client began to seek it outside the marriage, leading to a messy divorce.

Sexton’s Advice: While it was clearly wrong for this man to cheat on his wife, Sexton says where he really messed up was not telling her about his interests up front. If two people are willing to commit to being each other’s only sexual outlet for life, then all the cards have to be on the table and nothing can be too taboo. “I’m forced by virtue of my profession to spend time with the cheater on the cheated up and really hear both of their stories in great depth,” says Sexton. “And when you spend time with someone who’s cheated and talk to them long enough, you start to say, ‘okay, I get it.’ You know, you were lonely, you were isolated, you weren’t getting your needs met. Maybe that’s your own fault because you didn’t express your needs and so your spouse couldn’t even hope to meet them.”

33 Important Life Lessons to Learn in Life Early

By Royale Scuderi, posted on www.lifehack.org, updated Aug 18, 2022

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’ve learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Life is a learning process. You can learn important life lessons by reading, watching educative videos, or through experience. You can save a lot of time and energy by learning from other peoples’ experiences.

33 Lessons in Life You Need to Learn

Here’re important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people who are living on quite a lot yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit. Try these 7 Ways To Train Yourself To Be More Mindful.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected, and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values. This is What You Need to Do to Stop Being a People Pleaser.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

We tend to take our good health for granted because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse-quickening love, and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on. This is Why Your Perception Is Your Reality.

10. Patience Is a Virtue

One of the most important life lessons that you need to learn is the importance of patience. Patience is defined as an individual’s ability to wait for something significant to happen without feeling frustrated due to the delay. In life, you’ll have to wait for a lot of things without feeling negative.

Managing your money requires patience. You’ll have to do your best to avoid getting frustrated by the challenges and time required to pay off your debt, increase your income and enjoy your returns on investments. When you become patient, you’ll achieve your biggest goals and experience true happiness.

11. Your Comfort Zone Is Your Enemy

If you want to achieve your biggest goals in life, you’ll need to get out of your comfort zone. Also, achieving significant things with your money will require you to feel uncomfortable.

A good example of getting out of the comfort zone to achieve your financial goals is investing your money. Even if you don’t know everything about investing, you need to start investing early for your money to work for you. Another instance can be meeting with your employer to ask for a raise. While it’s a difficult thing to do, it will help you achieve your financial goals in the long run.

12. Be the Early Bird

In general, people who adopt something early or arrive first usually have an edge over latecomers. For example, arriving early at an event allows you to pick a good seat and meet important people. Starting early or being the first has lots of benefits.

You can apply this lesson to your finances especially when it comes to saving and investing. People who start investing early always have an edge over the latecomers. Your money needs time to multiply in the market. Therefore, always strive to be the early bird.

13. Starting Is the Only Way to Make Progress

This is one of the life lessons learned that is worth stating this year. The only way to make progress in every aspect of life is by taking action. No progress happens when you complain.

Progress automatically begins when you start. Setting goals is a huge part of starting. Getting one percent better every day is better than not getting started at all.

14. Live in the Present Moment

The majority of experts in the field of psychology usually tell people that a huge part of depression revolves around living in the past. Anxiety, on the other hand, is caused by spending a lot of time worrying about the future.

Focusing too much on the negative side of life or trying to come up with a perfect plan for the future can make you miss out on the present moment. Missing out on the present moment can lead to regret. Strive to focus on the present moment today to transform your life.

15. Being Nice to People Pays

We are all different and unique. Nobody is better or smarter than you. Therefore, you don’t have to boss people around or domineer them. Being nice to people especially when you are working your way up will help you achieve your goals quickly.

No one knows what life has in store for them. Being kind and supportive will go a long way in transforming your life. One day, you’ll need a kindness from other people. And you’ll always get what you give. This is one of the good life lessons to adopt early in life.

16. Set Boundaries

One of the best lessons in life that you need to learn in life is setting healthy boundaries especially if you are around toxic people.

Regardless of whether they are family members, or co-workers, being around toxic people leads to arguments, high blood pressure, and a negative attitude. If toxic people have to be in your life, you need to limit the capacity. Setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them will pay off in the long run.

17. Work-Life Balance Is Key

Most people around the world have a poor work-life balance. They spend most of their time working hard to increase their income, get a promotion, or avoid losing their job.

When you spend too much time in the workplace, you’ll start neglecting important people in life. Also, you need to take care of yourself and your wellbeing. By organizing yourself and managing your time effectively, you’ll be amazed at how much you can accomplish in less time. Focus on working smarter instead of harder.

18. Life Is Not Fair

In the end, one of the valuable life lessons that everybody learns is life doesn’t always go the way we want. This can lead to anger and frustration. However, in the end, life always has the best intentions for us.

When you acknowledge this lesson, you’ll start living fully because you’ll be aware of the fact that there is nothing perfect in life. Most people go through their lives feeling like the world owes them something. However, this is not true. You’ll have to make your way in life. And there’ll always be people who are more knowledgeable than you.

19. You Are Stronger Than You Think

Regardless of what life throws at you, you are stronger than you think. You can stand up for yourself and take everything that life throws at you. You’ll always figure things out even if it seems like an impossible challenge. As time passes, you’ll learn that you are stronger than you think, and you can face your challenges confidently.

20. All Problems Have Solutions

This is an important life lesson that we all learn in life. When you are faced with a problem, it’s always important to put in the time and energy to find a solution. Even if you don’t find the best solution right away, don’t give up. There will be times when life will throw you a ball. And you’ll think that things cannot get worse.

At your worst moment, pick yourself up, think of the best solutions and focus on rising with more strength. One of the best ways to come up with solutions is by writing down your problem in detail and the best solutions. Also, don’t be afraid to seek help when you need it.

21. Forgiveness Sets You Free

You’ve probably heard numerous times people say that someone doesn’t deserve their forgiveness. And it’s true. Other people don’t deserve your forgiveness. However, you do. You have to release the hurt, anger, and frustration towards other people. And the best way is to forgive.

Anger and hurt are not only bad for the people close to you but also for yourself. You’ll never find true joy, inner peace, or happiness if you keep carrying and spreading hurt and anger. Let go of toxic emotions. And you’ll start enjoying your life to the fullest. Forgive other people for your sake.

22. Some People Don’t Want You to Succeed

This is one of the most important life lessons that you’ll learn in life. Your family and friends always want the best for you. However, they are afraid of losing you. They want you to stay safe and live in your comfort zone.

They don’t want you to do crazy things like moving out, starting a business, moving in with a partner, or starting a new career to name a few. You have to do what you want without worrying about what other people think.

Once you start your journey, the right people will show up. Stick to your path. Remember, it’s your life. This is the best lesson for life.

23. Help Others as Much as You Can

You need to start helping people as much as you can. It doesn’t have to be your family and friends all the time. It could be elderly at the parking lot, a single mom on the street, or volunteering to create animal shelters. There are a lot of ways to help people in your world.

Your world is transformed by your example and not your opinion. Instead of judging other people, you should reach out and help them. The one thing that you can do for someone can make a huge difference in their lives. Help people and they’ll help you.

24. Don’t Focus Too Much on Your Plans

Life teaches us lessons to prove us wrong by throwing weird obstacles in your path. You don’t have to live your life strictly according to plan.

The best part about life is there is no plan. You can spend your days creating plans only to have a random thing thrown at you. Learn to adapt and go with the flow. Be open-minded and flexible.

25. Nothing Is Permanent

In life, there’ll always be good and bad times. However, nothing lasts forever. All the horrible things that you are experiencing today will come to an end. A few years from now, you’ll be laughing at yourself.

Good things come to an end too. That’s why you need to avoid getting too wrapped up in the current happenings and cherish the good times.

Don’t be afraid if you are in the middle of a crisis. It will come to an end. Embrace the good experiences in life. And always keep in mind that everything is temporary.

26. People Change

Most of the time, we don’t give people second chances. We judge them by their actions or our assumptions. You’ll find yourself shunning people out or looking down on them. You should stop doing this.

The person you were ten years ago is not the person you are today. The same applies to other people. Don’t judge people. We all have a past. Some people have the best intention. And they want to change. Leave peoples’ past behind and avoid binging it up all the time. People need chances.

27. Family Is Not Always the Only Bond

This is one of the most important life lessons. If you stand up for what you believe in, you are going to lose some family members. You need to keep in mind that everyone has different beliefs, visions, and paths.

When you discover who you are, you’ll stop putting up with some things that you used to love or endure. Regardless of the number of people you lose, you need to stay true to your beliefs.

The right people will come into your life and they’ll become your new family. If your family rejects you for what you believe in, don’t fret. Let them go. One day, they’ll come back.

28. Don’t Hesitate When You Should Take Action

As the Roman saying goes, seize the day. In most instances, people fail to take action due to a lack of courage or confidence. This hesitation keeps them from taking a forward step.

By failing to take action, you’ll end up regretting or wishing you’d started earlier. When it’s time to take action, don’t hold back regardless of the outcome. Make up your mind and act because nothing significant ever happened by hesitation.

29. Always Keep Trying

Even when you have prepared yourself well, there’s a chance that you’ll not achieve your objective. Just like an athlete who prepares themselves for months for a single race only to fall in front of the finish line, you should never give up.

Keep on keeping on. And one day, the stars will be on your side. A good thing about life is not in never falling but in rising every time you fall. Making mistakes is part of life. To achieve your biggest goals, you have to learn from your mistakes and keep trying.

30. Flexibility with Your Goals Is Key

There will be times when you’ll take action and start using your plans only to find that you were wrong. You need to analyze where you are and what you can do to influence your future positively.

You’ll be forced to postpone or even change a specific goal to move forward. Being flexible and adapting to change is one of the best ways to win in life.

31. For Every Action, There Is a Reaction

Before you say something or take action, you should always think of the consequences. People might be unprepared for your message or fail to respond well to your gestures. That’s why you should always treat your words with caution.

Also, treat others the way you’d like to be treated. You can change your life for the better by keeping in mind that your actions always have consequences.

32. Live Your Life to the Fullest

Life goes faster than you think. Most adolescents and young adults tend to think that they’ll remain the same forever. However, years will pass quickly, and you won’t be a young person.

You need to live your life to the fullest because it is short. And, you never know what tomorrow has in store for you. Every second wasted is a moment of your life wasted. Don’t let other people’s thinking control your life. This is one of the important life lessons to learn.

33. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all:

Life can change in an instant.

Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

Final Thoughts

It doesn’t matter how old you are or where you are in life. Learning is the biggest lesson in life. And it’s essential for anyone who wants to succeed in life. You need to keep growing and evolving to live your life to the fullest.

Remember, it’s your life. And you know what’s best for you. Don’t allow other people to think for you. Walk your path with courage knowing that life is on your side. Which lesson will you adopt today to transform your life?

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